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Family scapegoats with years of healing: what events or thoughts precipitated your full acceptance of your family's narcissistic dynamic? Can you share your inner thoughts as you reached it? How do we know when we have reached full acceptance?

08.06.2025 05:03

Family scapegoats with years of healing: what events or thoughts precipitated your full acceptance of your family's narcissistic dynamic? Can you share your inner thoughts as you reached it? How do we know when we have reached full acceptance?

The family's “in group” do not have intimate relationships. They are transactional and look down on each other. In other words, you aren't missing anything.

In that sense, acceptance is strongly related to building awareness.

You will never be enough no matter what you do. At best, they will make backhanded compliments or just ignore you.

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They enjoy hurting you.

Your life is better in every single way without them.

You’ll know you've reached full acceptance when you receive a hoover and send it straight to spam/trash without an emotional reaction, or a second thought about it.

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When you recognize your own darkness, you will see it in them, and see them for who they actually are as people. Then it will become easy to drop them from your life.

You don't owe them anything.

The most important things to realize:

My waist finally looks like how it did before I had kids but I didn’t lose weight. Why am I still 15 lbs from my starting weight?

They don't love you.

Recognizing the darkness in yourself allows you to see it very clearly in others. A narcissist is consumed with darkness. That is: deceit, sadism, and ego.